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HOW TO CLIMB MOUNTAINS

Choose the mountain you want to climb
Don’t be influenced by what other people say: ‘that one’s prettier’ or ‘that one looks easier. You are going to put a lot of energy and enthusiasm into achieving your objective, and you are the only one person responsible for your choice, so be quite sure about what you are doing.

Find out how to reach the mountain
Often you can see the mountain in the distance – beautiful, interesting, full of challenges. However, when you try to reach it, what happen? It’s surrounded by the roads; and what seems clear on the map is far more complicated in reality. So you must try all the paths and tracks until, one day, you find yourself before the peak you intend to climb.

Learn from someone who has been there before
However unique you may think you are, there is always someone who has had the same dream before, and who will have left signs behind that will make the climb less arduous: the best place to attach a rope, trodden paths, branches broken off to make it easier to pass. It is your climb and it is your responsibility too, but never forgets that other people’s experiences are always helpful.

Dangers, seen from close to, are controllable
When you start to climb the mountain of your dreams, pay attention to what is around you. There are, of course, precipices. There are almost imperceptible cracks. There are stones polished so smooth by rain and wind that they have become as slippery as ice. But if you know where you are putting your foot, you will see any traps and be able to avoid them.

The landscape changes, so make the most of it
You must, naturally, always keep in mind your objective – reaching the top. However, as your climb, the view changes, and there is nothing wrong with stopping now and then enjoy the vista. With each meter you climb, you can see a little further, so take time to discover things you have never noticed before.

Respect your body
You will only manage to climb a mountain if you give your body the care it deserves. You have all the time that life gives you so do not demand too much from your body. If you walk too quickly, you will grow tired and give up halfway. If you walk too slowly, night might fall and you will get lost. Enjoy the landscape, drink the cool spring water, and eat the fruit that Nature so generously offers you, but keep walking.

Respect your soul
Don’t keep repeating, ‘I’m going to do it.’ Your soul knows this already. What it needs to do is to use this long walk in order to grow, to reach out as far as the horizon, to touch the sky. Obsession will not help you in search for your goal, and will end up spoiling the pleasure of the climb. On the other hand, don’t keep repeating ‘It’s harder than I thought,’ because that will sap your inner strength.

Be prepared to go the extra mile
The distance to the top of the mountain is always greater than you think. There is bound to come a moment when what seemed close is still very far away. But since you are prepared to go still further, this should not be a problem.

Be joyful when you reach the top
Cry, clap your hands, shout out loud that you made it; let the wind (because it is always windy up there) purify your mind, cool your hot, weary feet, open your eyes, blow the dust out of your heart. What was once only dream, a distant vision, is now part of your life. You made it, and that is good.

Make a promise
Now that you have discovered a strength you did not even know you had, tell yourself that you will use it for the rest of your days; promise yourself, too, to discover another mountain and set off on a new adventure.

Tell your story
Yes, tell your story. Be an example to others. Tell everyone that it’s possible, and then others will find the courage to climb their own mountains.

(Taken from “Like The Flowing River” – Paulo Coelho)

I’m in quarter climb one of my mountain.
Wish me luck guys… *grin*

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Life.. is so SIMPLE…

My horoscope today’s state like this :

-LIBRA-

Why pressure yourself into taking it all in when grasping one small detail can be so rewarding? Right now you need to focus on one aspect of your life to see how you can improve it. Instead of focusing on your overall health, try just your teeth. Instead of focusing on making more money, try just saving one dollar a day. And instead of focusing on finding a true love, try just finding someone you can have a great conversation with. The best way to move forward is by taking one step at a time.

I think that something which anyone should know from the beginning, right? Don’t need any advice from those horoscope things. Just maybe sometimes I forget how to think in pieces. Busy to thought about the global things, worried about anythings, but forgot to face the very small and easy things that have very important connection to improve my problems.

Maybe that’s the reason why I sometimes feel how hard my life would going to be, because I was busy to think anything so hard. Yeah… why don’t make it simple by think in pieces, one by one, and be ready to face what’s next. Like Han said in Fast & Furious : Tokyo Drift, “… Life is so simple,.. just go what u have to do, and don’t look back…”.

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Mirror, mirror of eternal time, where does the solution lie?

I have a lot of question right in my mind that I couldn’t answer…

And… there’re some questions that just don’t have any answer at all…

For every single question that has been asked on the face of this planet, the answer has always sprouted out of a surprisingly simple logic. Well, not necessarily the simplest, but there could have been more complicated solutions to it. However, the most complicated solution has never turned out to be the perfect one. At least that’s what we have been made to believe.

One begins to wonder about this claims credibility. Do the laws of physics put any constraint on how the solutions have to be? Theories suggestive of this have been around for a long time.

For most people, the 14th century English logician, William Ockham’s claim is worth their life’s exploration:

entia non sunt multiplicanda praeter necessitatem

which translates to Entities should not be multiplied beyond necessity,
more popularly interpreted as
The simplest answer is usually the correct answer.

This argument is one of the most favorite claims for the evolutionists to disprove the existence of the ultimate being. As much as this THEORY can be appreciated, the ramifications will almost always turn out to be grave. Not just in science, but in all walks of life.

Defectors of this theory can bring in a million examples to disprove this claim. What is the one question that perpetually persists in every single cerebral being’s mind, the one question that makes them contemplate, and the one question that has been chasing every curious mind? Why is the universe the way it is? Well, and a few more too, but if the former were to be answered, the rest would fall in place.

Even for these profound questions, there is a ludicrously simple theory. The universe is the way it is, because we are. The universe is the way it is because, if it weren’t, we wouldn’t be here to question about it. There might be millions of other possible universes, but only this is real, because we are here. The anthropic principle! It can be equated to: Why is it raining today? Because if it doesn’t, human race wouldn’t persist and we won’t be here. So did we get an answer for the question? The supposed answer might have made some sense, but the relevance factor was absolute naught.

In our pursuit in life, we are all settling in for such pedestrian solutions. There would have been no apparent solution, nevertheless, we settle for that! Striving towards the ultimate reality is far too difficult. People just cannot be taught to do it. Neither does their thought process propel them. However, the fruit once borne will be worth the struggle. Few realize this and strive for what is absolute, rather than to settle for what might be apparent. Fewer attain the peaks.

But if one is anywhere near the vicinity of being close to the solution, if there is awareness that one is in the right path, and if there is someway of finding out at least a morsel of what is meant to be, it is worth the risk. It is worth the struggle. For, it is in this struggle that one realizes that the absolute panacea was far too near than assumed.


We dance ’round in a ring and suppose

But the secret sits in the middle and knows

~ Robert Frost

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The One That Got Away…

In life, u’ll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom u shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There’s the one u 1st kissed, the one u 1st loved, the one u lost your virginity to, the one u put on a pedestal, the one u’re with.. and the one that got away. Who is the one that got away?

I guess it’s that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn’t fall the right way, I suppose. I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a long time partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person.

I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with u being ready to settle down & commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance. How often have u gone through it without even realizing it? When you’re not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn’t matter who u’re with, it just doesn’t work. Small problems become big; inconsequential become deal breakers I simply because you’re not ready & it shows. It’s not that u & the person you’re with are no good; it’s just that it’s not yet right and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day u’re ready. U really is. And when this happens you’ll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it’ll work because you’re ready. It’ll work because it’s the right time & u’ll make it work. And it’ll make sense, it really will. The day comes when you’re finally making sense of things & u finds yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, u finally understand who u are and what u want and you’ve become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind u, there’s no telling when this day will come.

Hopefully u’re singles but u could be in a long-term relationship, u could be married with three kids, it doesn’t matter. All u know is that u’ve changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person u think about. U’ll think about them because u’ll wonder, "What if they were here today? U’ll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am & not as I was?" That’s what the one that got away is. The biggest "What if?" you’ll have in your life.

If you’re married, u’ll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale u thinks your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you’re mature enough to realize that if you’re already with the one you’re with, that this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when u get past it. Sure, u’ll think about him/her every so often, but it’s alright. It’s never nice to live with a "might have been”, but it happens. Maybe the one that got away is the one who’s already married. In which case it’s the same thing. You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you’re old and gray and reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it’s different. What does u do if it’s not yet too late? Simple… find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you’ll always wonder, what if u got that one? Ask him out to coffee; ask her out to a movie, it doesn’t matter if you’ve dropped in from out of nowhere. You’d be surprised, u just might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is your "the one that got away”. U might drop in from out of nowhere & it won’t make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it’ll all fall into place somehow & it would be a great feeling, if in the end u’ll be able to say to someone, "Hey u, you’re the one that got away".

 

(From Iya’s BB… How come I never realize it?? Hope someday I’ll be able able to say “Hey you,… You’re the one that got away!!!”…. )

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Belajar “Bahasa Dewa”

Gara-gara liat cover DVD film “Spanglish” di rumah seorang teman, jadi inget waktu awal-awal gue jadi mahasiswi kelas executive program Magister Hukum UGM jurusan Business Law. Judulnya aja udah kelas executive, kebayang dong gimana bentuk rupa temen-temen gue kayak apa which is mereka-mereka yang udah lama banget bergerak dan bergelut di bidang hukum dan bisnis. Berinteraksi dengan temen-temen sekelas yang ngga semua sebaya itu bikin gue sering banget denger kata-kata yang lumayan bikin dahi gue berkerut-kerut. Parahnya, kata-kata itu ngga cuma dipake dalam presentasi, tapi juga dalam komunikasi sehari-hari. Gue diem-diem sering nyari arti kata-kata itu di Kamus Besar Bahasa Indonesia. hahahahaha.

So even gue paling muda di kelas, ngga mau banget dech keliatan paling bego karena ngga nyambung kalo ngobrol.

Dulu nih, gue ngga peduli sama bahasa yang gue pake alias asal ngomong aja. Kosa kata itu-itu aja, struktur kalimat suka-suka gue, yang penting bahasa sehari-hari lah. Tapi setelah gue kuliah (lagi) dengan major “Hukum Bisnis”, gue mau ngga mau jadi harus lebih peduli. Apalagi lingkungan kerja gue yang juga ngga jauh-jauh dari hal-hal itu.

Waktu gue and teman-teman semakin akrab dengan yang namanya presentasi, otomatis kemampuan berbahasa – baik buat makalah maupun buat presentasi – harus juga lebih baik dong. Gue and teman-teman lain yang hampir seumuran seneng banget berlomba-lomba nemuin kata-kata – yang menurut kami sih – tingkat tinggi! Hihihihihi :-)) Dan dipake dalam setiap presentasi. Ngga heran dech semua kata-kata itu tumpah ruah dalam setiap lembar makalah gue. Hahahaha.

The worst part is, gue keterusan, sampe-sampe masukin kata-kata itu dalam bahasa sehari-hari gue. Walhasil – hehehe – saat ngobrol dengan temen-temen lain di luar lingkungan kerja and kampus, gue juga pake “Bahasa Dewa” itu. Gue pkir orang-orang pasti ngerti. Ternyata gue salah. Ngga semua orang ngerti dengan bahasa yang gue pake and ngga jarang gue di bilang “belagu!”. Hahahahaha. Dari situ gue sadar kalo bahasa punya sikon dan komunitas masing-masing.

Learning from the experience, gue mulai ngeh kalo bahasa sebagai alat komunikasi juga punya tujuan utama yaitu bisa dimengerti lawan bicara. Artinya neh, kalo emang lingkungan gue hobi “berbahasa Dewa” ya gue akan jadi salah satu “dewi”. Tapi kalo emang gue pas lagi ada di komunitas yang “berbahasa” sehari-hari, ya ngga usah sok “tinggi” lah (kecuali emang lo belagu beneran). Buat apa gue terdengar “canggih” sendiri sementara orang-orang di sekeliling gue cuma bengong sambil ngeliatin gue dengan pandangan “Chi, lo ngomong apa sih?”